One word sums up the role of the husband in a marriage – love!
The apostle Paul gives a command to believers who are indwelt by the Spirit and who will therefore want to live under His influence. The command given is not that he rules over wife, nor that he exercise his headship – but he is urged and exhorted to love his wife, as a conscious act of his will, just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for it (Eph 5:25).
As a husband, the Christian is to look upon the portrait of Christ Jesus, and he is to paint according to that copy. The true Christian is to be such a husband as Christ was to his church (C.H. Spurgeon).
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord (Eph 5:22). This is God’s plan until Christ returns, until there is no more marriage. This is not an outdated first-century pattern which should be abandoned in our contemporary culture. Rather today’s culture has abandoned what is good and right and pleasing to God our creator and sustainer. Thus wives has an opportunity to witness to the watching world that they are more concerned about pleasing their Saviour than conforming to the culture. We have here three instructions for wives so that they can please the Lord.
The call to follow Christ is a call to slavery, to submit to His mastery. When Jesus calls a man or a woman to follow Him, He calls them to recognize that He is Lord – not to make Him Lord. Thus a believer lives his life in the light of the fact that Jesus Christ has absolute supremacy over all things and all people — that He is the owner and ruler over all.
This sermon contains five aspects of slavery to Christ. It challenges us to ask ourselves – to what extent am I currently living as a slave of Christ?
Christ sets His people a beautiful and incomparable example of what it means to humbly submit. Jesus’ whole life was one of submission — “I have come to do your will” (Heb. 10:7) was like a motto-text for His life, the life of a slave who owes all obedience to his Master — such submission should be the mark of all Spirit-filled Christians. Believers are called to follow Christ’s example, fearing Him who will one day judge, and looking forward to the reward that God promises those who humble themselves.